Keeping Our Power Beyond People’s Reactions

I just wrapped up a coaching call with a client considering renewing our coaching relationship. We’ve done a great job so far of getting past a lot of bugaboos and creating a huge leap in self-awareness and confidence. She shared gratitude for her ability to do this, how much it meant to her and how it’s transformed her relationships and career path. She’s been courageous.

The questions she asked herself now, looking at what’s next for her was: Is it worth it to partner with a coach to have and keep my power beyond the reactions of others and my fears of them? What happens if I don’t?

When she looked at this, the fear was palpable and so was the possibility.

Some big questions for our lives. Where do we stop because of the reactions of others? What do we give up on? What version of ourselves doesn’t come out, assert itself and simply be because of this? What’s the cost and for how much longer are we going to keep things going this way?

If you want to, please share below both wins, where you stopped letting other people’s reactions define you or what commitments you want to make to get beyond this. I promise what you write will make a difference for someone else reading the post.

The Letterman Freak Show


Wow, this montage in the last episode was good.

Final Show Montage

I didn’t watch much of the CBS show, because there were fewer freaks. I watched Late Night for Kaufman, Pekar, Theodore, Glover and especially Melman. When I met Larry “Bud” Melman I was more excited than when I met Bono. Their presence amidst the canned and buttoned down TV world blew my mind.

The montage taught me that Dave loved the freaks, too and maybe he saw himself as one, but needed to be “somebody”, like most of us do.

I’m definitely a freak and am growing to love that word, that idea of not being buttoned down and needing to be what I think people are looking for. Maybe we’re all freaks when we let our guards down. That’s comforting to me.