Month: January 2015

Stuck In Our Own Creations

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billboard-stuck_1116867iThis is an amazing part of life. We create something, a relationship, an organization, a partnership, a commitment and eventually it can start looking like a trap, a situation we don’t know how to get out of or something we see is taking over our lives.

This usually comes down to one thing, or two related things, bad planning and the gift of learning.

Bad planning usually comes down to naivete. It’s not on purpose. Learning is usually a good thing, but not so much when we’re unwilling to make the changes our learning asks of us or to see the learning available in the first place.

When the picture changes, when our marriage or our business requires more than we thought it would, more time, more resources, more attention, a more evolved version of ourselves, this is GOOD NEWS. The key is making sure we don’t respond by increasing our own suffering. There is always a win, we just may need more help than we think, there may be more foundation-building to do, we may need to grow or let go of our grip, our image of what it’s supposed to be.

If we can do this humbly and let go of our ego and get to work of learning and incorporating that learning, then we can really start to make life and our commitments work, and everyone has a chance to win.

This is something coaches and other people we empower to put a mirror up to us can help us make a huge difference around. They support us creating the humility to see what our traps are teaching us and the courage, conversations and accountability to grow into who we need to be to take necessary action and succeed.

What is your relationship a partnership for?

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Is it explicit? Is it agreed upon? Do you talk about its progress?

Wanting to be accepted and loved is great, but most relationships wind up becoming a partnership for certain things, both empowering and disempowering.

All relationships wind up being a partnership for working out our stuff in life, the problem with that is that it’s usually not agreed upon specifically.

Getting clear on this can make a huge difference, including giving us a chance to work on our stuff OUTSIDE the relationship, FOR the relationship.

Then you can partner for the lives you truly want.

Liberty and the Relationship of The Human Race

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Liberty.

Such a radical act of humanity. The concept of liberty says I may become a target for standing for liberty since liberty is entirely subjective. One person’s version of liberty says that it is appropriate to kill me for living outside of what their ideology dictates.

Attempting to find ground where liberties are basically respected will always seem like a tyrannical act to some people’s sense of liberty. We see it every day, it is the source of many of our greatest daily frustrations, upsets, crises and tragedies.

Liberty is always a marketplace, which makes it potentially dangerous for all and simultaneously beneficial for most. Can there ever be perfection inside liberty? Of course we try to do our best, we learn, we fight it out all the time, but what would it take to play all out for the ideal of liberty?

Liberty itself is a battleground as well as a machine for the transformation of humanity. We are in early days for the experiment and we must accept many terrible things if we choose to be a part of that experiment. Working out liberty isn’t pretty. I think we know this.

Also tragic, unless we create total freedom from conditioning for the individual, from the accidental adoption of beliefs from where you are born, into whatever family, whatever culture and the unconscious choices we make from the environments we are in, the events we witness and suffer from, we can and will be a victim of our own unconsciousness. The Kouachi brothers are dead, but were they ever free? If they were free, who would they have turned out to be? Of course I don’t mean free to make a choice. I’m talking about the freedom you earn from questioning what makes you you.

What would liberty look like if creating individual freedom from conditioning was prioritized? Can it be? We cling to our idea of identity, who we are familiar with ourselves being and we live our lives unconsciously from what we haven’t allowed ourselves to question, to deconstruct.

I’m in awe of the problem and possibility of Liberty.